What If I’m Confused About My Compensation Requirements During Salary Negotiations?

Be prepared for your discussions with your new employer. Even though most executive salary negotiations, especially those with six-figure jobs and up benefit from or actually need coaching help, it is still important for you to think out your situation and prepare for salary discussions. At least, you need to bring three numbers into a final job interview:

- Ideal

- Satisfactory

- No-Go

These “name” your salary and frame your negotiation. Your employer probably has his/her own three numbers as well. Good negotiations will find the common ground between you. Excellent negotiations on your part will be at the highest possible point of that common ground.

Let’s say you’re a convention coordinator, and in your present job you’re underpaid at $45,000. And let’s say you’d be ecstatic at $70,000 – a number bigger than you think you’d ever get, but it’s not a complete fantasy – it passes the “laugh test.”

At the other end of the spectrum, there’s no point in moving jobs for less than, say, $50,000. We’ve named the Ideal (top) and the No-go (bottom) numbers. This is my Ninth Commandment of Salary Negotiations: Thou Shalt Not Take the Name of Thy Salary in Vain.

Now let’s look at the employer’s point of view. She is pulling her hair out with the complaints she’s getting with her current coordinator. She’s in danger of losing an entire $150,000 account if she doesn’t get someone [like you] who’s good with attention to detail. She knows that the average salary for a coordinator is $40,000 for a plodder, up to $55,000 for a self-starter. The top of her range is $60,000.

Your common ground, then, is $50,000 – $60,000. That’s $50K for your lowest, and $60K for her highest. Neither of you know that common ground when you start negotiating. All you know is your own range.

There’s a whole negotiating dance that takes place to come to some agreement. The part of that dance I want to emphasize in this commandment is your clarity. Before you begin serious money talk, your top, bottom, and mid-ground numbers need to be thought out. If they are fuzzy, your negotiations will be fuzzy. If you’re not clear that $50,000 is as low as you’ll go, you might waffle. In the heat of the interview, experiencing great rapport, imagining friendly coworkers (not the grouches you work with now) you will be tempted to say, “OK. I’ll start there and work up.”

No! Do not take the name of your salary in vain! “I’m sorry, Ms. Employer. I would love to work here. I feel a great connection. I love your accounts, but somehow we have to reach a minimum of $50,000 and preferably $55. Let’s put our heads together and find a way, shall we?”

Presents For Your Mother On Her Birthday

Moms will love anything from their children. They really don’t care about the present because cliché as it may sound; it’s the thought that counts. The fact that you remembered her birthday and opted to give birthday gift for your mom which is something will melt her. But this shouldn’t stop you from making your mom feel special on her birthday.

Make a birthday card. It will remind her of the times when you were in kindergarten and you’d go home to her with a star or a simple present. Don’t forget to mention that it’s her birthday! It will really bring tears of joy in her eyes.

Get her a bouquet of fresh flowers as a birthday gift for your mom. Just make sure she isn’t allergic to the ones you plan to give her. It will make her feel really special. Bear in mind that moms are still girls at hearts and flowers makes almost all girls feel giddy.

Cook for her. You don’t have to go all out, especially if you don’t know how to cook. Just prepare cookies or a cake for her and she’ll love you for it. Gather everyone and celebrate her birthday with her and she’ll overflow with happiness.

If you want to splurge on mommy dear, get her what she wants. Get her a new perfume, a bag or pumps. Give her whatever she likes as birthday gift for your mom. After all, it’s her birthday and it’s her turn to be spoiled.

You can also treat her to a day at the spa. Oh, she will love the feeling of being pampered! Give her a massage, get her hair done and whatever she wants. Just make sure she is relaxed. If you want, you can send her a certificate for a complete treatment on your local spa center as your birthday gift for you mom.

Remember kiddos, it’s the effort that counts here. So just think of what will make your mom happy. Follow your heart because deep inside I know as much as you do that your time is enough to make mom more than happy on her birthday.

Christmas Debt – A Crummy Present and Future

Christmas debt is a funny thing – and it’s a troubling thing as well. It doesn’t show itself before Christmas. It’s always afterward that we see its familiar face. All the while we’re busy getting in over our head with holiday purchases, we’re really setting ourselves up for a future that isn’t so “merry and bright.”

I know of a few who save and plan for Christmas shopping, while so many more get themselves into a pile of debt because…well, because…. I’m sorry, I just can’t bring myself to invent an excuse or rationalization for financial irresponsibility, no matter what time of year it is. Handling our personal finances in a responsible manner requires that we do so all year long.

Being a good steward of our financial resources doesn’t allow for financial foolishness at anytime during the year, regardless of what others are doing and what our consumer-oriented culture has rammed down our throats for so many years. Sometimes the emperor has no clothes and there is no sense pretending otherwise.

It’s time to stop thinking that giving more presents shows more love – it doesn’t. If you want to give a great present at Christmas, simply try having a better presence in the lives of others all year long. It’s something that money can’t buy – yours or theirs – and all of the recipients will rightfully be indebted to you.

With this idea in mind, it doesn’t make must sense to me to give Christmas debt another thought. It isn’t worthwhile, it never has been, and it never will be.