Self Examination, Being Present and Attracting What You Want in Three Easy Steps

“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
- Rumi

Self examination and being present are two of the main keys to attracting what you want, whether you are interested in a long term relationship, “friends with benefits,” or a basically physical relationship. Loving ourselves is always at the root of how we live our lives and what we get out of it. Most of us are seeking a love relationship of some type. These three steps help us clarify what we need to do in order to live the life we truly want and deserve.

1.Examine your Expectations – Unrealistic expectations, whether you are dating or in a relationship can be damaging and potentially destroy transforming your love life and attracting a life full of love. This is especially true if these are unexpressed expectations. We presume the other person can somehow read our minds (although most of us don’t admit it). We expect others to do all sorts of things for us, love us in certain ways, express their feelings in certain ways, help you more, on and on, etc., etc. Is this realistic? Does this make your love life easier or more filled with angst, anxiety and frustration? More importantly, what does this say about you? The best way to manage our basically unrealistic and unproductive expectations is to become aware that we have them and once we become conscious of this, LET GO OF THEM… even if we have to do this one day at a time. We must consider that the other person is not responsible in any way for our expectations. It is our responsibility to meet our own needs without the burden of expecting someone else to. As we bring this to consciousness and to a more positive state of mind, we have the potential to transform our love relationships into successful ones where each person is responsible for their own happiness, and where we truly love ourselves and the other… honestly, fearlessly and in an emotionally mature manner.

2.Be Present – Most of us bring unresolved childhood issues with us into adulthood. Along with this “baggage,” many of us bring the baggage from past unsatisfactory, hurtful or harmful relationships. This is something most of us are “guilty” of. Most of us tend to not see what is actually right in front of us (that is especially including ourselves as we truly are) but see through the eyes of past pain and feel with a heart full of past hurt and disappointment. This binds us to a past that no longer exists and to a future that will most likely be a repeat of past mistakes. It is only by remembering that “that was then and this is now” that we can see what is truly happening in the present. For example, in a past relationship, someone continually broke dates. In your present situation, the person you are dating or in a relationship with calls at the last minute and says they have to break the date. What happens? Usually you instantly feel that same old fear and anxiety, rather than seeing if this is a once in a while thing… or if this is part of your pattern of dating the same type of person. Try taking some deep breaths… make other plans… stay present and see what happens. If you stay present you can assess what is actually occurring rather than reacting to the past that no longer exists. Without staying present, we are at the mercy of… the same old, same old. Now is the only time that actually is! Until and unless we understand and live this concept, we are merely walking in our own footsteps around and around in the same circle… getting nowhere fast.

3. The Law of Attraction and You – One of the basic premises of the Law of Attraction is that where your attention goes, so the energy flows. Your consciousness and your thoughts influence your world. If you look for the positive, you’ll find the positive. If you look for the negative… that’s what you’ll attract. How much fun it is to be the “victim” of other people, circumstances, life in general. How much easier it is to not take responsibility for your life, your choices, who you are and who you attract. You must ask yourself the question… do you want a real relationship with a real person or do you want a relationship with resentment, victimhood, anger and fear. If that’s what you want, that’s what you will get over and over again. It keeps you stuck in the same old pattern. And that’s not what we’re about. What we’re truly about is cleaning up the putrid flow of negative thoughts and attitudes about yourself and others.

Embrace this as a discipline, as a new choice in life, as a New You emerging like a caterpillar emerging from its chrysalis into a butterfly. By choosing different thoughts and emotions, your relationships will reflect this change in consciousness. Like attracts Like. How we experience ourselves is a direct reflection of how we experience the outside world and our relationships. Just try this simple exercise. Every time you notice your attention going to something or someone you don’t want, notice this and redirect your thoughts. Again, this takes Practice and Patience. Be kind to yourself (another “new” concept!) Most of us have an entire lifetime of negative beliefs, thoughts and attitudes that we carry around with us like useless baggage that we’ve simply gotten used to and don’t even notice anymore. With practice, patience and commitment to yourself and your own Transformation process, you will experience positive, life changing, permanent change. There is also the potential to gain invaluable insights into yourself, life itself and the ability to create the Love Life you truly deserve. As Wayne Dyer says: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change!” Choose your Reality! You CAN do it!

Care Enough About How You Present Yourself

Stack everything in your favor. Don’t shoot yourself in the foot, before you get started.

I am not talking about fashion or style here. I am just talking about how you present yourself. How you present yourself says loads about who you are and how much you care about yourself.

You need to maintain the following at all times. I know this list seems obvious, but a ton of guys I have seen in the “field” are not taking care of the obvious. You need to be mindful of these things even if you are not going out to meet women.

1. Clip your nails short all the time. Keep them short and clean. There is nothing more repulsive to a woman than a man growing claws with grime underneath. Trust me, they will notice them in an instant.
2. Clip your facial hair – keep them under control: nose, ears, and eyebrow hairs.
3. Shower every day.
4. Deodorant: duh.
5. Brush and floss teeth as much as possible.
6. Have breath mints with you at all times. Depending on where you meet a woman, you may have to talk to her up close (like in a club). Don’t offend her with rancid breath.
7. Get a cool haircut!

A woman will paint a story about who you are and what your life must be like based on these things. Be mindful of this and keep your basic hygiene under control at all times. Don’t let your hygiene count against you; they are simple things to take care of, but are profound.

Silver Jewelry As a Present For Different Occasions

Holidays and special occasions are fast approaching, It is indeed a perfect idea to start looking for your present for your special someone, friend, relatives and family. Silver jewelry, I can say is one of the most valuable and surprising gift your love one can receive. For any occasion, silver jewelry will never be outdated.

Silver jewelry works for any types of clothing and skin tone, with its huge available supply and affordability from head to toe surely you can get a set of jewelry without compromising its quality. Like silver earrings, rings, bracelets, brooches, watches, necklaces and anklets.

In terms of present or giveaway for wedding occasion, a piece of silver bracelet engraved with “thank you” is a very sentimental piece your visitor or sponsor could received. It is a sign of appreciating their presence, witnessing one of the most important part your life. Your next chapter of building your own family.

Silver jewelry such pendant and chains of bracelet is another appreciative present for parent to receive for their new born child, a”Christening Present”. The parent can let their child grow up with your bracelet, always remembering you as the child’s godparent. Who promises to help raise the child in a Christian manner.

Regardless of the cost, any woman will be delightful to receive a silver jewelry for her birthday. It is the nature of women to put sentimental value to a gift from someone who appreciates her, especially if its something you personalized or “something given with effort”.

There is a wide collection of silver jewelry you can choose from to be a birthday present, but mostly for a friend, they prefer a bracelet engraved with words they can’t personally say how much that person means to them. Silver bracelets ranges from simple to a more decorative styles with crystals, diamonds, semi-precious stones or silver pendant as well.

For a Silver Wedding Anniversary present, a silver ring is a meaningful present you can give to your wife. Spending a quarter of a century or 25 years in love with one person is to be celebrated. Make it a memorable anniversary full of silver by making use of silver decorations.

Christmas and Valentines are fast approaching everyone is busy looking after with their gift to be wrapped for their families, friends and special someone. A stunning silver ring, earring, bracelet, watch, anklet, pendant and necklace are few of the many things you can wrap as a present of love. Make it a habit of giving a present, without expecting something in return, you may never know until when you will be together. So start to appreciate that person today. Even a small piece of pendant stringed on a simple ribbon can be a stunning present. Make everyday Christmas.