“Don’t let a mad world tell you that success is anything other than a successful present moment.” – Eckhart Tolle

When I moved to London several years ago I didn’t really know the place at all. I’d visited a few times with my family for the odd touristy day out but still didn’t know my way around. So when it came to living and working here I knew I had quite a bit of learning to do.

I remember one day arriving at Waterloo Station wondering how to get to Aldermanbury, where I was due to start a new job. I had a vague idea but wasn’t sure about the quickest or most effective means of getting there. So I did what I thought was quite a sensible thing to do (particularly for a man). I asked someone! I approached a smart-suited, professional looking chap in the belief that he was probably a city worker and therefore bound to be able to help.

“Excuse me,” I said, “I’m not from around here. Please can you tell me the best or quickest way to get to Aldermanbury?”

He looked thoughtfully up into the air and pondered for what seemed like an age, and then replied, “Well to be honest with you, I wouldn’t start from here”.

“Thanks,” I thought, “what a rubbish piece of advice!”

The reason that little encounter has always stuck with me is because I think it’s a perfect metaphor for how many people go about trying to achieve a better life for themselves. They may have an idea of where it is they want to get to, but find it hard to take a step in the right direction because they resist the notion of having to start from where they are.

I’ve come to realise over the years that people can only experience dissatisfaction with their life when they believe that their situation should be different to how it actually is. I’ve noticed it with just about every client I’ve ever work with and I’ve certainly experienced it multiple times in my own life. Whilst I’ve helped a ton people work through an array of diverse and unique issues, the conversation that takes place time and time again is the one that invites us to accept reality just the way it is right now, before figuring out what to do next.

What we call ‘the stress of life’ rarely has anything to do with what’s actually going on, and has everything do with our thoughts and interpretations of what’s going on. As Human Beings we don’t ever get to experience the ‘real world’, we only get to experience our own thinking.

If we are unhappy with where we are right now, the cause of the feeling will be rooted in the thought that there is some other place we’d rather be. Or, if we are feeling stuck, that can only be due to the thought that there is a direction we are supposed to be heading in, otherwise there would be no reason to be unstuck.

When we contrast this with the way human experience really works, the only place we can ever get to is right here, right now. Thinking that we are supposed to be anywhere other than right here, right now can literally drive us bonkers.

The most stressful strategy we can adopt for motivating ourselves to change our situation (and don’t worry if you’ve been doing this, most of us have at one time or another) is to direct our emotional energy toward hating the way things are. We convince ourselves that if we can just muster up a strong enough loathing for our current landscape then we will be compelled to take massive action and finally break free from everything that has been holding us back.

There are a few reasons why this is a crappy way of doing things. Not least that it seldom works!
How many times have you heard people complain about how bad some aspect of their life is and yet months, if not years, later absolutely nothing has changed? Over time they just got used to feeling bad; they habituated into their negativity, which not only set them on a path of blaming and complaining, it also shut them off to the kind of inspired thinking they would have needed to turn their ‘right here, right now’ into something better.

In my experience there are three kinds of thought that can cause us to feel dissatisfied with where we are at:

1 – Thoughts about expectation

2 – Thoughts about purpose

3 – Thoughts along the lines of, “Anything would be better than this”

Thoughts about expectation are where we cast judgement on ourselves for how we are currently doing compared to a story we’ve been sold. All of our lives we’ve had the bar set for us by our parents, teachers, friends, colleagues, advertisers, glossy mags, even OURSELVES, with regards to the standards and accomplishments we should have reached by this point in our lives. It is where we measure the distance between who we think we are versus who think we should be and then allow the size of the gap (or chasm in some cases) to proportionately dictate how anxious we should be feeling.

Thoughts about purpose are when we get the idea into our heads that we are wasting our lives by not doing the things we would rather be doing to make a positive difference in the world and to make our lives count. It is where we feel that our circumstances and outside influences are preventing us from living our ‘true north’, leaving us stewing in frustration and resentment. The most common reason why this becomes a lingering issue for people is that they make ‘living their purpose’ dependent on a specific set of criteria having to be met.

If you ever wanted to feel really frustrated with your life then I absolutely recommend setting it up in such a way that you cannot be truly happy until you have enough money, energy, creativity, opportunity, support or freedom to do live it out in the specific way you’ve always imagined.

Thoughts that resemble “Anything would be better than this” are what crop up we are not connected to a purpose or direction and have no idea what it is that we want. What we do know, though, is that we’re not having fun right now and attribute that to whatever is happening on the outside. “I’m not happy and, although I’m not entirely sure why that is, it must have something to do with my job, or my boss, or my partner, or my location, so I want to change it all. I don’t know exactly what I’m going to change it to; I just know I’ll be happier when it’s different”. The phrase that springs to mind here is – It doesn’t matter where you go, there you’ll be.

Whenever we think these kinds of thoughts we feel stress. But the only stressful element to it is the thought itself. If nothing changed in our situation other than we were suddenly unable to think those kinds of thoughts, we would simply be people living the lives we’ve got. No comparison, no judgement, no stress.

What I know won’t work is to ask to you not to think those thoughts. As far as I can tell you don’t control that (at least not without years of meditative training); it’s just what the mind does. The smartest and kindest thing you can do to move towards the life you want, is to start by accepting and valuing your currently reality exactly the way it is. Right here, right now is the only place you’ll ever need to get to.

The starting point for any journey will never not be where you already are. As we travel through life we learn that no matter how far we get, we never leave the present. We never leave and yet we are constantly arriving.

To live with the thought that your life is not supposed to be exactly the way it is right now is to be disconnected from the most integral part of the route map of your journey; the beginning.

How do I know you are exactly where you are supposed to be? Because you’re not anywhere else.

So what is the stress-free formula for turning ‘right here, right now’ into a place you would love to hang out? Let’s take a look as I explain your homework for this session.

HOMEWORK

There is a big difference between how you show up in the world when you are trying to prove the circumstances of your life are holding you back and how you show up when you are coming from a place of inspired service. Service in this context simply means giving your best self to the world in this very moment.

There are three ingredients that help things along nicely:

1- Knowledge of how you would like to feel if ‘right here, right now’ were already the happy place you want it to be.

2- An understanding of how you would think and behave differently with that feeling as your guide. How would you treat yourself and how would you interact with others.

3- Patience.

I invite you to take each of these ingredients and add them into the mix of your life straight away.

The instant you “assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled” and operate from that space, the present moment has a habit of transforming in the most wonderful ways.

Initially you’ll notice that nothing has changed and yet everything is different. Over time, with patience, you’ll realise that not only can you peacefully go after whatever it is you want to create in your life, but you can also stay happy, regardless of how the scenery changes along the way.

Take great care. Namaste.

What do you do if your boss gives you a thoroughly lousy PowerPoint presentation to deliver and it has 50 bullet points on each slide, complicated graphs, and long sentences everywhere?

Don’t panic! In this case, your PowerPoint slides are not going to help your presentation. But they don’t have to hurt you or destroy the presentation either. Here is what I recommend you do in this tough situation:

1. Ask your boss what the desired result is from the speech.

2. Ask your boss what the 5 most important message points he/she wants the audience to remember.

3. Incorporating the info from your boss from the above two questions, go through the long, detail-intensive slides you have been given and select the one (and only one) most important idea from each slide.

4. Prepare to give examples, facts, details and preferably stories that flesh out the one key idea from each story.

5. Resolve that you are not going to read or even cover all of the other points or concepts covered on each slide.

6. Be familiar enough with the facts of the slides to answer questions that relate to them, but double your resolve not to cover every fact of number on the slides.

7. When you flash a slide up, close your mouth and give people a chance to read or absorb what is on it, even if it takes a minute.

8. Have a great opening for a minute or two that gives the audience an interesting and useful piece of information and a reason to listen to you before you show the first slide in your PowerPoint.

9. When you are finishing your presentation, remove your final slide and give a strong and powerful conclusion that is in no way dependent on your slide.

10. Remember, you aren’t really giving a PowerPoint presentation. You are giving a presentation where people are judging your skills, intelligence and long-term potential. So don’t let someone else’s bad PowerPoint handcuff you into giving a bad speech.

You can give a great speech regardless of the slides.

Holidays and special occasions are fast approaching, It is indeed a perfect idea to start looking for your present for your special someone, friend, relatives and family. Silver jewelry, I can say is one of the most valuable and surprising gift your love one can receive. For any occasion, silver jewelry will never be outdated.

Silver jewelry works for any types of clothing and skin tone, with its huge available supply and affordability from head to toe surely you can get a set of jewelry without compromising its quality. Like silver earrings, rings, bracelets, brooches, watches, necklaces and anklets.

In terms of present or giveaway for wedding occasion, a piece of silver bracelet engraved with “thank you” is a very sentimental piece your visitor or sponsor could received. It is a sign of appreciating their presence, witnessing one of the most important part your life. Your next chapter of building your own family.

Silver jewelry such pendant and chains of bracelet is another appreciative present for parent to receive for their new born child, a”Christening Present”. The parent can let their child grow up with your bracelet, always remembering you as the child’s godparent. Who promises to help raise the child in a Christian manner.

Regardless of the cost, any woman will be delightful to receive a silver jewelry for her birthday. It is the nature of women to put sentimental value to a gift from someone who appreciates her, especially if its something you personalized or “something given with effort”.

There is a wide collection of silver jewelry you can choose from to be a birthday present, but mostly for a friend, they prefer a bracelet engraved with words they can’t personally say how much that person means to them. Silver bracelets ranges from simple to a more decorative styles with crystals, diamonds, semi-precious stones or silver pendant as well.

For a Silver Wedding Anniversary present, a silver ring is a meaningful present you can give to your wife. Spending a quarter of a century or 25 years in love with one person is to be celebrated. Make it a memorable anniversary full of silver by making use of silver decorations.

Christmas and Valentines are fast approaching everyone is busy looking after with their gift to be wrapped for their families, friends and special someone. A stunning silver ring, earring, bracelet, watch, anklet, pendant and necklace are few of the many things you can wrap as a present of love. Make it a habit of giving a present, without expecting something in return, you may never know until when you will be together. So start to appreciate that person today. Even a small piece of pendant stringed on a simple ribbon can be a stunning present. Make everyday Christmas.